I watched and read a lot of daygame stuff today; there is now such much daygame material that it is like a double-edged sword. There is a cornucopia, a wealth of information out there, but there is a problem with this. It’s definitely not the worst problem to have, but the problem is that you can be held back from progressing because of two things:
- Information overload: you get to the stage where you have learned so much that you can lose the run of yourself and forget all the training and studying you’ve done. Yesterday I was infield and I was trying to remember all the different pieces of advice I’d gotten from Sasha Daygame, Daygame.com, Nick Krauser, Boy Toy. It’s best to take what resonates with you from each trainer and to not get bogged down in theory, focussing on different aspects each time.
- Time is taken away from actually approaching: “I could go out and approach, but I think I’ll watch just one more Tom Torero video. Wow, good advice, I wonder what’s on Seddit. Some great tips there, how could I have gone out without that advice! I wonder what they think on this forum” etc etc etc. This is how “keyboard jockeys” are created.
So, here’s my plan: for my next 100 approaches I am going to focus on getting down the skillset of one of my favorite daygamers, Thomas Young, aka Boy Toy, from BoyToyStory.com. I’m not going to suddenly become him and call myself Thomas and basically try to be exactly like him. That would be wrong, and kind of weird. What I am going to do is *just* focus on his teachings for the next 100 approaches, and try to incorporate and internalize his advice for daygame and pickup from now until after my one hundredth “Boy Toy approach”.
This could take a few weeks, it could take a few months, but I am so overwhelmed by all the daygame stuff out there, I am spending less time actually approaching and I have such respect for Thomas’s work that I think it will be another interesting sub-challenge for me for 2014. Cold showers are going well, getting up at the same time every day is working, no shampoo or conditioner has touched my hair this year etc etc. So this is like my tribute to Boy Toy, and even though every set my bring disaster (I’m a slow learner and pretty ugly), I’ll do it for him and every other young guy out there who wants to get better with girls.
If this goes well, I might do 100 approaches just focussing on the the advice of Sasha Daygame, or 100 approaches focussing on Krauser’s Daygame Model. Or I might do 100 approaches where I just focus on eye contact, or getting the number as quickly as possible. Who knows? But I think it will keep things fresh and fun, keep me motivated and ultimately help me learn better. I’ve got to see what works to be more successful and to help me develop my own style by seeing what works and doesn’t work for me.
You can read all Boy Toy’s advice on getting laid here. I don’t get eye contact on the street much even though I look for it, and I have the worst possible logistics and so on and so on. But I commit here and now to just focus on Boy Toy’s Get Laid philosophy over the next 100 approaches. I’ve kept a diary for a long time now (since 2000 when I was very young) and I calculated how many approaches I did in 2013. Would you like to know how many I did? Just 74. In January of this year, 2014, I only did 13. So far this month, February 2014, I have done zero approaches (caused by my feeling ugly). You can see why I need to get out there and get approaching now. I know many people think keeping statistics is a bad idea, not least among them Boy Toy, but I like the sound of this definite goal and, let’s face it, I’m still obviously just a beginner, so I need these nerdy stats to push myself at this amateur stage.
Wish me luck, I leave you with the advice Boy Toy himself gave me earlier this month:
Remember – action, action, action. And stop reading that pua bullshit.