So, up early once again to go to the city to do daygame with my friend. The first thing I did when we got to the city was to get condoms to carry around in my pocket everywhere as Boy Toy recommends. I got three Skyn condoms (they expire in 2019 so hopefully I will have used them all by then…), as well as 270 vitamin C pills (which should last me until April next year; a player doesn’t have time to get sick haha).
So anyway, the shopping finished it was time to do some approaches. In all, I did ten real approaches. Still not close to my record for one day (18) but alright considering I was also hanging out with my friend and had a whole date in between. And I need just a few more approaches to break my record for most approaches in one month (which is 25). I say “real” approaches because some approaches were half-assed, like complimenting some women about to go out for a party or joking with girls in shops. So, here we go!
Boy Toy #39: a gorgeous Italian woman twice my age but obviously still lookin’ goood. Talked to her for a little while but she wasn’t interested in giving me her number. In the past I would have gotten offended or tried to persist but I am used to rejection now, want to screen, and always remember what Boy Toy said in his article How to Meet Girls:
If she is not interested, she will cut off the conversation / tell me she has a boyfriend / walk away / say no when i ask for her number / etc etc. If she is not interested, I am not persisting. I just tell her, well it was good to meet u have a nice day:)
Boy Toy Approach #40: 20 year old girl from New York, her last night here. Quick conversation and we arranged to meet at six outside a big clothing store we were near.
At this point I was supposed to have a date with the girl from Colorado I met last week, but of course I got a text from her just before saying she forgot about it and that something had come up. I asked her if she’d like to meet next Saturday, never heard from her again. At times like this I take comfort in what Boy Toy says about it being a numbers game. I just hope my persistence holds out…
Boy Toy Approach #41: delightful smiley girl in her mid-twenties. Chatted to her a while but she had a boyfriend. She could not have been nicer though, said I was very smooth and I got her name to add her on facebook. Couldn’t find her though. Damn these common names…
Boy Toy Approach #42: French girl with her family who didn’t speak a word of English, but her dad did. Through the dad’s interpretation I found out his daughter wasn’t interested in me haha. Was a funny moment. Should have hit on her much hotter sister though, no?
Boy Toy Approach #43: two Finnish girls, mid twenties again. Had a nice chat with them, and learned that Finland is not in Scandinavia (whoops…), but when I asked for one of their numbers she said she wasn’t interested (“sometimes you just don’t feel it”). I should have being paying more attention though because her brunette friend was way hotter and way friendlier, and something tells me I could have gotten her number. They told me they admired my confidence for coming up to them though, as so few guys would do that in Finland (good thing there are guys like Horny from GLL to change that haha), and they gave me their names to add them on facebook.
Boy Toy Approach #44: 28 year old Spanish au pair who was with her two younger friends (also au pairs). Se flatly rejected me after a nice talk (“I don’t know what I’m doing next Saturday, I don’t give out my phone number, I don’t give out my facebook”). Great. But her two friends were German so I talked to them auf Deutsch a bit. They seemed far more interested in me but I didn’t want to look desperate and ask them out too. Looking back I should have at least gone for a facebook or something. The perils of direct game…
Boy Toy Approach #45: 21 year old German girl in a clothes store. Was all going well until I asked her out, when she became less friendly. Maybe I need to go more direct? Told me she had a boyfriend but still got her name to add her on facebook (she is going back to Germany tomorrow anyway).
Boy Toy Approach #46: fat but I guess kind of cute 20 year old girl in a supermarket. She didn’t seem to know what was going on and just walked away after a little bit, thinking I’d said my piece. Part of me doubted she had ever been hit on, maybe because she lived in the countryside for so long and seemed naive, I don’t know. Should have just hit on the smoking hot women there instead, I would definitely have tried harder anyway.
At this point I was pretty disgusted with myself. I kept thinking, What is wrong with me? and being very negative. My friend gave me a cookie to cheer/shut me up and I remembered my commitment to the 100 approaches. So using my new-found energy from the cookie, I set off to find more hot girls. It didn’t take more than one minute:
Boy Toy Approach #47: 24 year old half-Brazilian half-Japanese girl (I thought she was Polish at first though haha, she is really a Brazilian citizen though) with kind of an edgy look, a nose ring, and lots of piercings in her ear. Once I saw she was interested I showed her a condom in its package and told (joked with?) her I’d like to go somewhere private with her right now. She said no but damn it was a good way of making my intentions very clear. She asked if I was a player but I knew what to do. Arranged to meet her next Saturday since I couldn’t meet her tonight, and got her number. Hug, kiss on the cheek, ciao bella!
Boy Toy Approach #48: smoking hot 19 year old half Irish half English blonde who was on her way to fencing practice at our university’s gym. Had a really fun conversation with her. I sensed a lot of sexual tension at times, like when we crossed our legs while leaning against a public phone box at the exact same time and in the exact same way, and looked deep into each other’s eyes. Then she smiled and looked down submissively. It’s probably just NoFap playing tricks on me… Anyway, we arranged to meet next Monday at three where we first met on the street outside a bookstore. Gave her a hug but she freaked out just a little when I went to kiss her on the cheek, what the fuck haha? :D Maybe I effectively screened her without knowing it. Got her number anyway so now I just have to sit back and wait for the flake… (*twiddles thumbs*)
Then, it was time for my date with the French girl I met last week. We met on the bridge and began walking back to my apartment, as per Boy Toy’s usual first date plan ;) We talked the whole way: she was very shy and friendly. Nothing like the French girl I had a date with in January. My God it was a long walk, but I used this to my advantage by building comfort. I didn’t tell her that we were going to my place at the end of the walk, and wondered if she would run away screaming when we got there, but she came inside, I got her to take her shoes off, offered her a drink (said she wasn’t thirsty), showed her around, showed her some family photographs etc and sat down on the couch with her. I got as far as my hand on her thigh, but when I went for the kiss she stopped me because she said she didn’t believe in short-term romances (she is going back to France in August) and so we would have to be just friends. I almost cried tears of cum. Yep, just another one to add to my List of Reasons I Can’t Get Laid. We discussed this a bit because I wasn’t sure if this was an excuse not to be with me because I’m SO UGLY, or if this was her legitimate dating philosophy, so tried to figure this out. She said she knew I wanted to be more than friends when I stopped her on the bridge. When was she planning on telling me that we could never be more than just friends though? I walked her home, and felt more of a connection with her this time, happy that I had done my best and that we would just be friends since she is such a good person. Daygame also helps you figure out who’s a good person to have in your life and who’s full of shit. Reminded me of this quote from one of Boy Toy’s lay reports:
Its amazing how different people are, and this is just another reason that you should NEVER spend your time with boring/annoying idiots – there are so many wonderful people in this world to hang out with instead.
It was such a long walk I decided to play the question game with a girl for the first time. Worked pretty well. As we parted we arranged to meet next Saturday to watch a movie in her bedroom on her laptop. Got her number too. Hug and a kiss on both cheeks, à la française. As usual, I won’t get my hopes up. Still felt stupid/lead on though.
I phoned my friend and asked her to meet the girl from New York that I had met earlier because I would be running late. She didn’t show up it seemed (fuuuuuuuuuuck!), though I would prefer to believe she didn’t see me and left and that my friend didn’t see her either as he was far away taking a picture when I did the approach and there were lots of people around. Haha, shouldn’t have gotten my hopes up…
On the bus back to where we were parked I was going to approach another hot blonde, but instead I talked to the bus driver the whole way back as he was one of the happiest, most positive people I’ve ever met. It was like he was an angel sent from heaven after a day full of rejection, flakes and general disappointment. No worries, still time for one more approach though, as my friend went to buy milk at the supermarket where I had met the eastern European MILF last meek:
Boy Toy Approach #49: another smoking hot blonde in running/workout clothes. I opened her by yelling “Daaaayyyyyum!!!” Just kidding, usual “Hey, I know this is a little random but…” She told me she lifted weights after I told her how amazing she looked and we mainly talked about bodybuilding. Told her we should go out for a whey smoothie sometime and got her number. I think I could die happy if I saw her naked…
On the way home, my friend and I concluded that the day had started out pretty bad (and seemed to get worse and worse), but approaching that Brazillian/Japanese girl turned things around. Reminded me about what Krauser says: It only takes one good set to turn a day around. I also thought about other things I learned from the day…
1. Confirm the date a few days beforehand: could have talked to the New York girl for longer if I had known the Colorado girl wasn’t going to show up. It’s a good thing I followed Boy Toy’s advice and texted her a few hours before the date saying “Looking forward to seeing you :)” or she wouldn’t have texted me at all and I would have to stand there like a chump for a while, afraid to approach in case she saw me.
2. Get the girl’s number: Should have gotten the New York girl’s number just in case. I was better than last week for getting the number instead of just arranging the date but this was still such an amateurish mistake. I am determined not to let this happen again.
3. You can bring a girl back to your place on the first date: I know you’ve seen Boy Toy do it again and again and again, as described in his post here, but once again I’ve now gotten first hand experience that this is possible, and I’m definitely going to keep doing it for the rest of the 100 approaches and probably beyond.
4. Write notes beside the girl’s name after getting her number: Unfortunately, this is another piece of Boy Toy’s advice I have not been following, until today! Here’s a reminder of what Boy Toy recommends:
When you save a girls number, remember to write notes besides her name. For instance “Claire, 18, red hair, in the supermarket, ON!!”
I always thought I would remember the interaction and not need notes, but if you are approaching ten girls in a day (and setting up some dates) then notes are essential, especially the time and place if you have set up a date. I found myself taking notes on my little notebook I always carry around anyway, and later in the day I couldn’t remember what time I had set up dates with the Brazilian/Japanese chick or the blonde fencer. So, from now on I will always write notes beside the girl’s name if I am lucky enough to get her number. Also, I will stop giving the girls surnames in my phone like O’ Flake and “Dontgetyourhopesupski”. That’s got to send out the wrong vibes to the Universe…
5. If she has a boyfriend, try to meet anyway: she could have hot friends and you never know what will happen in the future (they could break up).
6. Go for the phone number before facebook: because phone numbers > facebook adds. And didn’t I say a few days ago I would stop using facebook for the 100 approaches to be more like Boy Toy? From now on, no more facebook!
7. Not knowing is worse than rejection: Still internalizing this one.
8. If I do my best, nothing else matters: Again, still internalizing this one.
9. Calling > texting.
I think that’s it. I knew I would never have the success I had last week, but overall I was pretty happy with the day. Seeing the French girl step into my apartment was just as exciting as seeing the MILF put on her seatbelt for us to drive off and have some fun last week, because once again my mind was blown by what is possible. I have come a long way just this month and I feel I am getting the skill set of Boy Toy down. Practice makes perfect, after all. The photos of the approaches turned out really well too; I would be proud to show them on here and might edit them for privacy and then upload them someday. My real test will be doing ten approaches in a day and not getting a single positive response, phone number, date or facebook. I am sure I will keep going though. The rejections can be soul destroying, but ultimately I am building a new mindset that embraces rejection for many reasons, which I will get into another time. So, thanks for reading. I will continue to study Boy Toy’s material for one hour every day (do you know the value of an hour?) and we’ll end with a quick summary of today’s stats:
Total Approaches: 10
And a reminder: Anything I can do, you can do better.